Never Have I Ever... Been More Proud to be an American Hindu


Alright, let’s be real, this is pretty much the one and only TV show all of the diaspora is talking about, and honestly, it’s a discussion worth having.

Mindy Kaling’s new show Never Have I Ever brought out a wide range of reactions spanning from “This show sucks! It does not represent me at all.” to “I have never related to anything more in my entire life! I want a season 2, 3, and more!” However, I have a feeling that a majority of us fall right in the middle of that spectrum.

We join Devi in her home for the first episode as she is praying at her family’s mandir (place of worship for Hindus). She requests a few things from the murtis (check out our post about idols here) which gives us a glimpse into Devi’s mind and a sneak peek into the rest of the season.

NHIE touches on some really deep, sensitive topics, and does it pretty well. We hear about the death of a loved one, mental health challenges, balancing two identities, arranged marriages, interracial couples, and so much more. Props to Mindy for bringing all those elements into a high school teen drama. While this deserves recognition, there are also some areas of improvement to capitalize on the spotlight the show received. Let’s break some of those down.

What NHIE Does Well

Never Have I Ever portrays a few extremely crucial topics in a beautiful way. There aren’t many shows that discuss topics like mental health or dealing with the loss of a loved one, so bringing these into the scope for this show was definitely a fruitful decision.

  1. To start off, it’s important to acknowledge that the dichotomy of being Indian/ Hindu and American is a difficult one to figure out. As Kamala and Devi touched on, it is so hard to find a middle ground without feeling too Indian for Americans, but also too American for Indians. Truth be told, growing up in the States, I used to wish I was not Hindu. I didn’t understand what our traditions were, why we did them, or any of the logic behind them. It seemed unnecessary and honestly, kind of like a pain to follow these practices. This challenge is something that is not unique to Devi and I, but familiar to many around the country.

  2. Mindy delicately shows the grief and mental health struggle Devi goes through with her father’s passing. The way Devi tries to push the sadness out by focusing on lighter, happier thoughts is something that I’m sure many of us have experience with, and seeing it on the big screen just made it that much more relatable.

  3. The subtle Indian intricacies really hit home. Watching Devi eat dosas with her hand, listening to Nalini call Devi “Kanna” (equivalent to beti / sweetie), and taking off their shoes in the house made it seem normal to live the way we do.

There are many more things that the show did well, and the idea that Mindy was able to create this show representing an Indian Hindu family as the lead, while not making the entire show about them being from an immigrant background was very well done, and should be applauded.

What the Show Can Improve On

On the flip side, while there were many positive aspects to the show, there were some opportunities for improvement as well.

  1. With the hopes of making the show more relatable, the show subtly pushes some preexisting stereotypes a little further. Nalini mentions how she bought a year’s supply of toilet paper at Costco, and she also talked about how they were going to return the grandfather clock after Prashant leaves which continues to portray us as cheap, penny-pinching people.

  2. While pronouncing some names are difficult for non-native speakers, it would have been nice to at least see the narrator and Devi’s close friends pronounce her name properly: Devi, not “Davy”. Devi means “divine” or “Goddess” in Sanskrit and by allowing the mispronunciation of it, we are forgetting to respect and show value to our name. We often see people reducing their names from “Rahul” to “Ryan” or “Sushma” to “Susie” for the convenience of others, but allowing this spotlight to share the importance of our names would have been extremely beneficial to those of us with “difficult” names. (10/10 would recommend this TedTalk about the importance of appreciating our names).

  3. The show also emphasizes that Aunties are people to whom you have no blood relation but have the need to get all up in your business. While there may be some truth to that, it is important to also address the aunties that show you the same love and affection as they do to their own kids. Growing up, a lot of aunties were there when you needed them. Whether it’s sending food to your college dorm with their kids, offering advice because they care about you, or inviting you over when your parents were out of town, it’s a blessing to have grown up with a community of people I could look up to.


  1. In the last episode, when our three lead characters go to disperse the ashes at the beach, Nalini recites a verse from the Bhagavad Gita (a Hindu Scripture from the Mahabharata where Arjuna asks many questions about life, Dharma, duty, etc. to Lord Krishna right before entering battle):

Nainam Chindanti Shastrani
Nainam Dahati Paavakaha
Nachainam Kledayantyapaha
Nashoshayati Marutaha

~ Bhagavad Gita 2.23

No weapon can cut the soul into pieces,
nor can it be burned by fire,
nor moistened by water,
nor withered by the wind.

This verse shows that we believe the soul is eternal. Devi’s dad will continue to live on through his Atma (soul) even though he may not physically be here today. I wish NHIE took the time to explain the meaning and the importance behind this shloka rather than just reciting it and moving on. It’s clear Devi doesn’t connect to her religion, but explaining the meaning behind certain practices could really help her and the audience learn more about Hinduism in general.

  1. The way the show explained arranged marriages also did not do them justice. While casting the character of Prashant as an attractive match made the idea of arranged marriages seem more appealing, there were still a lot of misconceptions projected throughout the series. In the earlier episodes, arranged marriages were presented as a way for parents to ultimately decide who their child marries. As Kamala starts meeting the parents, Nalini pushes the idea that all Kamala likes to do is cook, clean, and look after their son.

While this might have been the case in the past, contemporary arranged marriages are more like meeting people through dating apps, but meeting them through your parents instead. Parents or family friends recommend someone who they think would be a good match, and the two potential partners usually go on a few dates to see if it could work. Kamala ultimately decided that she was not ready to commit to Prashant but wanted to take things slow with him, and I wish the fact that she had this freedom from the beginning was clear from the onset of the show.

  1. Overall, I understand Devi’s apathy towards Hinduism, Indian culture, and her upbringing but I wish NHIE had done a better job showing Devi circling back around to appreciate it and realize that it is cool to embrace your culture without the need of Western approval. In Episode 4 at the Ganesh Puja, it was great to see how Harish’s perspective changed from being embarrassed of his heritage, to realizing he didn’t want to be insecure about it anymore. I hope to see Devi’s journey of accepting and understanding her roots a little more in the following seasons.

What the Show Taught Me

Was the show perfect? Not at all. But it is important to acknowledge that this show was meant to show one person’s story. Mindy and the entire team deserve praise for all the things they got right, and we should hope and work for more representation like this in the future that touches on other experiences as well.

Referring to my own story, I was not the biggest fan of being Hindu in high school. It seemed archaic and pointless, but I was fortunate to have a supportive community and parents that helped me understand why we followed certain traditions. Throughout this learning process, I was given the ability to follow what practices I resonated with and adjust or skip the ones that seemed still confusing to me. That is the flexibility that I love about the Hindu culture. Through learning more about the history and intricacies of it, I realized how much depth and beauty there is to the Hindu lifestyle.

That being said, now more than ever, I understand the need for not just any kind of representation, but the kind that will help us find the value in our traditions, culture, and our roots. The kind that teaches us why we should appreciate all the stories and practices that are being passed down. The kind that finally makes us feel proud to be Hindu. This is what we strive to provide at The American Hindu.

Never Have I Ever finally makes it possible for us to be on the big screen, and it also shows us that it is high time we start learning about our culture and finding out why we practice the things we do. Mindy Kaling’s production doesn’t dig deeper into the reasons behind our Hindu beliefs and practices, but we hope that she takes the opportunity of a potential second season to share more of that.